Anonymous writer.
30 year old,Indian male.
I started my career with an Indian IT firm at age of 23. After working for while in bangalore for close to 3 years I was sent to US for a client engagement,there I stayed for another 3 years before I raised a request to move to India to my base location aka Bangalore.However after 5-6 months I finally stepped down from my corporate job and moved to my hometown Jaipur.
Purpose of writing all this “tell me about yourself” kind of para above, is because I feel that person who is reading this answer should get a gist that my life till now has been quite unsettling as well as volatile. Coming from small town to metro then to US, I literally saw myself evolving a lot during whole process.I will discuss about three different phases of my life in response to this question my distant past,my recent past and my present (only restricted to my experience with different social environments).
Distant past (Bangalore)
Bangalore was quite organised compared to my hometown or any other town of north India for that matter. But the city was like a jug full to brim, it was like every person wanted to leave the city,their jobs but they just “can’t”.People were highly occupied within themselves quite different from regular Indian society which felt so good at early stage but slowly and slowly it started feeling what is exactly wrong with people?everything appeared so transactional even emotions were not free.
Recent past (US)
US was altogether a great experience it was like Bangalore 20.0. Lot more cleaner,safer and less populated but more socially awkward for people like me.I just couldn’t figure out what should I do so that I don’t feel lonely.I try making friends,made lot of them but just couldn’t feel that bonding with them which I had back in India. My life got limited to weekends, for rest of the week I just used to go to office cook some random shit ,eat it and then sleep. Sometimes in a day I used to call back to my home/gf three times a day and strangely they all seemed so busy,so alive. I try to drag conversation because I just don’t want them to hang up as I knew that if they do ,I might not get anyone to talk with me in “this way” . It become so much out of control that even after working entire day I couldn’t sleep in night I was just not tired or may be happy,I don’t know ,but I couldn’t sleep. I started hating that place, I just wanted to leave so applied for my transfer back to India and moved to bangalore.
Present (My Hometown)
After moving from US I got pretty much clarity that this is not the way I want to live my life.I will waste my entire life if I continued in this way so I left my job move to my hometown and take over my family business which I never gave due importance earlier but all those years in unknown places made me realize it’s importance. Nothing much changed in my place there were again lots of people,lack of rules,dirtyness etc. etc. but amidst all these I was happy. My lifestyle started coming back on track I started waking up early,started becoming fit, everything started falling at right place.Yes, I don’t earn what I was earning in US or even in Bangalore but do I care,no. I am earning decent enough to give me and my family good lifestyle.Maybe I won’t be making regular check in’s at 5 star hotels on company’s budget but now I don’t want that I just want a place where I can get some stability and that’s what I am getting here.
So the bottom line is, it can get difficult to settle in US or even in some places in India but it hugely depends upon the individual. It is just like a lock and key kind of thing if you as a key are trying to get yourself in wrong lock ultimately it will be you who will be on receiving end. So just do some introspection and take a call before it gets too late in life .
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